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January 04 What's the point?Also known as "what's your mandate?"
See this post came about because after much observation, and watching groups implode, I thought I should share what I see as the number one cause of magickal groups, circles and covens disintegrating within the first year: They have no purpose.
Who sure they want to get together and "learn" or "worship" together, but that's just too broad. And as a result, no one really knows what's expected of them and the group begins to drift. After drifting, people will become disillusioned and annoyed since they will feel the lack of motion and progress, even if they can't put their finger on it. Eventually they will either just drift away or make a point of their being a problem, which then leads to bruised egos, hurt feelings and angry words.....and this usually results in a messy break up that could have been avoided in the first place.
For any group (not just pagans) to be successful, it needs to have a vision that is shared by all and is worked towards by the group. Without such, the strain and implosion is inevitable.
So whether you are thinking of starting a group or are already part of one, sit down and write out what you want to see accomplished by your being a member of that group. If you are in charge of running the group, then ask yourself what the purpose of the group is. You can get quite specific without being exclusive. And the tighter your mandate, the more likely you are to be able to see it through. You can always add to and change it once the goal has been accomplished. Rant TimeI am SOOOOOO sick and tired of hearing people whine because this or that pagan event or gathering does suite them. They seem to think that the universe revolves around them and that the event organizers need to drop EVERYTHING and rethink the entire thing just because one person isn't happy.
What these people don't understand is that you get as you give, literally. If they were willing to give their time and energy to organizing and running an event, then they could have a say in how it was done and what it involved.
But no. They want someone else to do ALL the leg work so that they can just show up and enjoy themselves. It just doesn't work that way.
Now I know DAMN well that people have busy lives (I'm a casual employee at the moment which means that they call me when I'm needed and I do NOT get to pick and choose my shifts) but that's CHOICE. Right now I CHOOSE to go through the roller coaster of being a causal worker to bump up my seniority and have a better chance at getting a permanent position when one becomes available. And some days I CHOOSE not toe answer my phone because I need sleep and will not be called in for overtime shifts. Just like I CHOOSE to make time to see my boyfriend, since he's an important part of my life.
So to can someone CHOOSE to rearrange they schedule and get involved with the planning of an existing event or start from scratch and spear head a new one.
So, all you whiners you there, put up or shut up. You're obnoxious and boring. |
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